What Is A Toxic Relationship
A toxic relationship is one that makes you feel devalued, sad, unsafe, and mostly leaves you drained because you find yourself trying to invest so much into it but your efforts always turn out to be in vain.
Most times these toxic relationships emanate from toxic friendships. That is why learning how to end a toxic friendship and letting go of toxic friends is important. The following are tips on how to leave a toxic relationship in dignity.
1. Don’t Live In Denial
Do not get carried away by your feelings. Make sure you do a deep soul search, during which you should ask yourself questions like: am I comfortable in this relationship or am I just pretending?
2. Record The Lows
If you discover that the time you spend in the relationship does not improve your state or cause you to get excited. These are signals that it’s not working and you have to move on.
3. Avoid Negative Minded People
Keep away from people that never see the good in you, but always focus on negativity.
4. Speak To Yourself
Tell yourself the truth. There is no better person to end the relationship than you. You have to know when to say -‘ I have had enough’ and be ready to move on with your life.
5. Give Yourself A Treat
By treating yourself with love and respect, you start to see the need to walk away from a relationship that devalues you.
6. Get Ready To Move
Don’t live in a world of fantasy. Be true to yourself and know when it is time to move on. Relationships are made to make you feel better, but if you are worse off, you have to take the bulls by the horns. You need to know that there is love and the right kind of love is out there.
7. Declare Affirmations
What you say to yourself is like an echo, it comes back to you. Learn how to speak into your life words that you desire to reflect in your life. Affirm words like, “I am making progress”, “I succeed in everything I do”, “My future is bright and I am not a weak person”, “I love myself”.
When you do this, positive change is bound to come because as you speak these powerful words you start to see that you are worth more than the negative things your toxic friends or partner must have said about you.
You start to build up your self-esteem and it gives you the courage to turn down anything less than what you think you deserve.
8. Allow Some Rest
Create time for yourself to refresh and evaluate your life. Effective self-care helps you to stay healthy and also builds your self-confidence. For details of how self-care helps you, read my blog post titled 25 Self Care Ideas To Change Your Life In 2020.
9. Put Yourself First
You have to learn to value yourself and treat yourself right. When you start doing this you will naturally start distancing yourself from toxic relationships.
Every human has a choice to decide what they want. Don’t settle for less than you deserve. Always choose to build a relationship or friendship with people that know your worth, respect, and value you.
Keep your distance from people who see just negativity in you. Remember you are special and you deserve the best.
Ending a toxic relationship might entail leaving someone you love, quotes like the following will encourage you in your decision to move on.
“It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.” – Nicholas Sparks
“Until you let go of all the toxic people in your life you will never be able to grow into your fullest potential. Let them go so you can grow.” – DLQ
“One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.” – Michael J. Fox
“We teach people how to treat us.” – Dr. Phil
“Maybe the most that you can expect from a relationship that goes bad is to come out of it with a few good songs.” – Marianne Faithfull
“Poisonous relationships can alter our perception. You can spend many years thinking you’re worthless. But you’re not worthless. You’re underappreciated.” – Steve Marabol
“It’s better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else” – Phil McGraw
“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. To be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?” – Mary Manin Morrissey
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