Top Important Parenting Tips To Be A Fantastic Parent

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Every parent should be familiar with parenting tips because they are very relevant to the upbringing of children. To better appreciate what parenting tips are about, in this post, I will discuss in detail parenting tips for toddlers, positive parenting tips, parenting tips for preschoolers, parenting tips for parents, fun parenting tips, and parenting rules.

 

Positive Parenting Tips

Positive parenting has so much to do with the parent than the kids. Because the parent is the one laden with the responsibility of seeing to it that the child is properly raised in an atmosphere of unconditional love and peace. A positive mindset is required for an adequate child upbringing.

As parents or potential parents, if we do not shake off some habits, and start imbibing good parenting qualities, we would have a hard time being good parents to our kids. Albert Einstein said, “modeling isn’t one way of influencing people. It’s the only way”.

Sara Dimerman also said “A major key to successful parenting is a key called “Modeling character”. What these good parenting quotes mean is that showing your children the kind of person they should be or ought to be first starts with you being that person.

According to Sara Dimerman, children can consciously and unconsciously take in everything we say and do. Children constantly imitate our examples good or bad. Children will scream and become so distressful If their parents spend most of their time screaming and yelling at them. If we always give them reasons to rush through everything, we gradually groom them into impatient individuals.

That is why we need to be good role models for our children. The following are positive parenting tips, every parent should abide by.

 

1.  Parent Should Live And Lead An Open, Transparent, Clean Or Unquestionable Lifestyle

This might be difficult, but all areas of our lives should be void of accusations. We should live a clean life. Life is not all about making money to the detriment of the kids, rather make out time regularly to talk with your children about life lessons that will build them as they grow up.

Teach them the values of boldness, sincerity, tenacity, and others that may never be told to them in our schools. Live a clean life because exactly all your schemes are being viewed and interpreted by your children and in no time, they will do the same.

 

2.  Both Parents Should Work In Harmony To Raise Their Kids

The moment your kids find out you are divided in your perspectives on parental upbringing, you would have a very hard time trying to get your kids to follow the values you are trying to teach them. They will explore your disparity in parental views to distract both parents from their schemes especially as teenagers.

 

3.  Be An Advocate Of Courage

Allow your children some air. Do not do everything for them. Give them tasks, watch them sweat around with it. Keep on encouraging them till they pull through, make them understand quitting in life isn’t an option. Little task qualifies an achievement, struggles and tenacity will give your children more footing for success in life.

Deliberately give them room to fight battles and win. Make them solve mathematical problems several times till they get it right. Stop doing it for them. Ensure they finish or go through good books while you review it with them. Use the daily occurrences in life to teach your kids to be courageous. This is a major ingredient to scale through life. You can’t teach them courage if you are not courageous. Don’t choke your children with excessive pampering and defense. Allow them to win daily little battles.

 

3.  Quality Education And Good Up Bringing

There is no need to save so much money for a child whose character you failed to build as a parent. There is a need for money, yes, but it should be channeled to giving your kids a better life. Give your kids a conducive environment for growth. Give them the quality education they need to pull through. Quality education and good upbringing are basic things children need to be successful in life.

 

4.  Get To Know Your Children

Get to know your children; find out their strengths and discover their personalities. After finding out their unique personalities you can now consciously fine-tune it to make them fit adequately into the society and their world at large. Do not give room for comparison. Just as orange can never become a mango, do not expect one child to behave like the other.

Comparison only gives room to rivalry and trust me as a parent that is not what you want for your kids. Build/Groom your child’s personality until they grow into loveable responsible adults. You cannot achieve all this if you do not know your kids. If you can’t harness their strength.

Generally, whatever you desire in your kids, let it start in you and with you. You are a model for your children. Be a positive model. For more information on how to raise your kids using positive parenting, read my blog post titled Positive Parenting.

 

Parenting Rules

Parenting rules may differ as it pertains to different schools of thought. Below are the centralized rules of parenting.

 

1.  Do Not Make Promises To Your Children If You Know You Can’t Fulfill Them Or Keep To Your Words

Ensure your children see you as a person of integrity. When you begin to say words and you don’t mean them truly, you will gradually lose your grip on them. Just as a popular saying goes, “always say it clearly and keep at it”.

 

2.  Both Parents Should Always Be In Harmony While Passing Down Norms And Values For Their Children

The fact that your children know you agree is even more important than what you both of you are agreeing on. When your children are certain that both parents agree, it makes parenting and reception on the children’s part easier. They (the children) will abide by your instructions and love you both.

The disparity in views and disagreement on norms passed to children from parents should not be heard of or noticed by your children. Parents manage yourselves totally and always come to common grounds with your spouse. Mothers, when your children intellectually come behind you to ask you questions concerning what daddy has said.

Your response should be exactly what daddy has said earlier. It saves your kids from the hustle of confusion while learning basic life values from both parents as they grow up.

 

3.  Communicate Positively And Effectively To Your Kids

In communication, there are three areas.

•  The actual message intended to be passed by the communicator
• The translation and the understanding absorbed by the receiver from the message passed by the communicator.
• The extra additions made by the communicator to the receiver while passing the intended original message as a result of the emotions, religious and academic background.

Parents should always ensure their children are well communicated to by getting feedback and fillers from the children. You may be passing a particular message to them, but their interpretation gives it a whole new effect and taunts your intents. Ensure this gap is bridged.

Positive communication entails the fact that your communication with your children should always leave them empowered. While your kids are with you, ensure you are on the positive stream of emissions. Do not inject negativity into their system and subconscious with your words. Also make it a habit to speak politely, respectfully but firmly to your children. Throwing harsh words to them regularly makes them become hardened by the day.

 

Parenting Tips For Toddlers

We must note that toddlers have a very high, innate need for movement and exploration. Toddlers carry the inquisitive mind. You will always find on the constant move, trying to explore their environment by always reaching out for things e.g touching, tasting, manipulating, and observing.

Toddlers are highly attracted to colors and colorful things, objects, and pictures. Because of all this, parents and caregivers alike should create an environment that helps them satisfy their needs. The following are parenting tips for toddlers.

1.  Parents Should Create An Environment That Helps Toddlers Satisfy Their Needs

Below is an experience related by a Montessori, early years educator.

A parent once approached me saying, she has a challenge. She had a toddler of about 18months and she came complaining that the child does not like to sit still to learn what she tries to teach him. I told her that those traits are very normal. If the child sits still and listens to her for 15-30 minutes, while she tries to teach the child without the child moving, then that is when she should be worried. That his constant need for movement was normal and expected.

 

2.  Your Child’s Room Should Reflect Your Desire To See Them Explore

This means creating a conducive environment that caters to their inquisitive minds. Their rooms could have sensory baskets containing things they can explore. The environment especially their rooms should be colorful and attractive.

 

3.  Toddlers Are Susceptible To Illness, So Their Environment Must Be Clear And Sanitized Always

Create a healthy and lovely environment for your child to feel safe in.

 

Parenting Tips For Preschoolers

The following are parenting tips for Preschoolers.

 

1.  Boost Your Child’s Self Esteem

Praising accomplishments, however small, will make your kids feel proud.

 

2.  Catch Kids Being Good

Have you thought about how many times you react negatively to your kids in a day?. Don’t find yourself criticizing far more often than complimenting. The more effective approach is to catch kids doing something right. Say things like; you made your bed without being told to, that is great! Make it a point of duty to find something to praise every day.

 

3.  Set Limits And Be Consistent With Your Discipline

The goal for discipline is to help kids choose acceptable behavior and learn self-control. They may test the limit you establish for them, but they need those limits to grow into responsible adults. Establish house rules like no watching of television until homework is done, no belittling nor namecalling.

 

4.  Make Time For Your Kids

Yes, this is often difficult, but you should devise a means to do this. Get up early and spend time with your child before zooming off to work. Create a special night, you can go watch movies at the cinema or once in a while, visit family and friends together.

 

5.  Be A Good Role Model

Let your child be able to emulate good examples from you. Be a good mirror through which your child can see the world.

 

6.  Make Communication A Priority

Always make out time to talk with your kids. Let them see you not just as their parent but also as a friend.

 

7.  Be Flexible

Be willing to adjust your parenting style.

 

8.  Show That Your Love Is Unconditional

Let your kids know that they have your love and support always.

 

Parenting Tips For Parents

Parents should be examples to their kids and not live by double standards.
The following are parenting tips for parents.

 

1.  Have A Family Get-Together

Get-togethers are another key for maintaining family unity and this time also provides great opportunities for families to be together. It increases a family’s chances of establishing and maintaining healthy relationships while creating room for love, respect, and reverence in the family.

 

2.  Check Up On Your Children

Not for fault finding, but to lighten up their day. From time to time, walk into their room and spend some 20-30 minutes call routine check, make sure things are kept in their proper places and they are doing productive things.

 

3.  Television And Internet

Remove Television and computer from your children’s room and place them only in the public viewing area. This is to help you monitor what your kids are watching or spending their time on.

 

4.  Vacation

Vacation is a time of respite and release. Wonderful family time for bonding, fun, relaxation, and a great break from the wear and tear of everyday life.

 

5.  Monitor Your Kids

Don’t leave your kids with others or at home alone without monitoring them.

 

6.  Fun And Play

Make time to have some form of play to enjoy together, ease tension with swimming, scrabbles, dominoes, football, jokes, or cards.

 

7.  Ask Questions

Asking questions is the only way to know what is happening in your child’s life. Ask questions, probe mildly especially when you notice any changes, either good or bad in your child’s life. Evasive answers mean more questions while frank or open answers help to skip the drama that may bring about disaster.

 

8.  Behavior Versus Nature

Don’t make the mistake of calling a child a name that relates to their behavior. Separate the child from the behavior. When a child does something stupid, doesn’t mean the child is a fool, he or she only engaged in stupid behavior, just like all of us have done one time or the other.

 

9.  Listening

Develop that act of properly listening to your kids when you communicate with them. Do less talking. Don’t let your anger take a better hold of you, but listen with an attendant show of concern.

 

10.  Be Attentive

This is quite different from listening. This means watching them closely to know what they listen to, what they love to wear, what they love to watch, and do on the net. Try to understand their unspoken details.

 

Fun Parenting Tips

As wonderful and important as children are, raising them can be a whole lot of work. The following are fun parenting tips parents can use to raise their kids right.

1.  Get a stroller and scooter hybrid.

2.  Make a table hammock with a bedsheet.

3.  Use an old box to make them a cardboard slide for those living in a duplex or a stared apartment.

4.  Use a fan to inflate your child’s bed fort.

5.  Make them get along the shirt.

6.  Use helmet to keep them warm.

7.  Get funny toothbrushes and toothpaste, so they don’t forget to brush their teeth.

8.  Get him/her a baby mop suit.

9.  Fly kites with them.

10.  Use outfits to tell twins apart or customize your family tree.

11.  Play video games with them.

12.  Find time to sing and dance with your baby.

13.  Use muffin cup to protect them from melted ice-cream

14.  Stuff toys into their bedside like polar bears, panda, and blue sky.

15.  Daddy should choose dresses for their children.

16.  Video or take photographs of the kids and keep showing it to them until they get tired of seeing that set. Then take a new set.

 

Parenting Rules

1.  Never argue with your children.

2.  Always model calmness when talking.

3.  Provide equal does of love and discipline.

4.  Help them find self-control and self-direction.

5.  Inspire to motivate and contribute.

6.  Don’t for orders, your home is not a barrack or a police station. Use directions.

7.  Teach boundaries and realistic limits, ask yourself: What I have just said, do I have the capacity to do it.

8.  Teach and model emotional responsibility.

9.  Encourage children to think outside the box, let their mind wander, definitely, something must come out of it. Create genius and not robots

10.  Focus on improved social, physical, and technical skills.

11.  Get interested in your child’s sport, learn and attend his/her games.

12.  Set good examples.

13.  Fair play reassures children.

14.  Also, encourage non- sports activities.

15.  Don’t turn blind eye to bad behavior.

15.  Don’t turn or become your child’s handbag in every one of his activities to avoid over-reliance on parental presence or advice.

 

Parenting Worksheet

Fill in the blanks to reflect on your experience as a parent.
I AM A…………………………………………..
I NEED TO BECOME A MORE……………………………….
MY CHILD THINKS I AM A………………………………..
I WISH MY CHILD WILL STOP……………………………………………………
I WISH MY CHILD WOULD START………………………………………………
I HOPE MY CHILD NEVER…………………………………………………….
I NEED TO LOVE MY CHILD MORE………………………………………
MY CHILD’S BEHAVIOUR WILL BE BETTER IF ………………………………….
MY CHILD’S FRIEND ARE……………………………………………………
MY CHILD MAKES ME PROUD WHEN………………………………………………
MY CHILD ‘S MOOD IS TYPICALLY…………………………………………………….
MY CHILD’S BEHAVIOUR IS TYPICALLY………………………………………………
MY CHILD LIKES TO………………………………………………………………
MY CHILD HATES TO…………………………………………………………..
I WANT TO TEACH MY CHILD TO……………………………………………………
I PROVIDE AN………………………………………. ENVIRONMENT FOR MY CHILD.
MY DISCIPLINE STYLE IS………………………………………………..
OUR FAMILY IS………………………………………………..
I HOPE THAT SOMEDAY MY CHILD WILL………………………………………………..
I KNOW THAT SOMEDAY MY CHILD WILL……………………………………………..
ONE THING I WILL NEVER DO AS A PARENT IS……………………………………

 

 For you

Thanks for reading this blog post to the end. I hope it will inspire you to be a better parent and friend to your kids.

 

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