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10 Tips To Love Yourself And Put Yourself First

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Many people crave love and acceptance from others, not knowing that they first have to practice self-love, know how to be confident, and learn how to be happy with themselves. As a person, you must know how to love yourself and how to treat yourself well before others can accept and treat you well.

Learning how to love yourself comes mostly from a deep feeling of appreciation for your individuality and personality. The day you discover who you are, how unique you are as a person, and how much your world needs you, you will start to know how to love yourself.

To help you in your journey of self-discovery and self-love, I have broken down this writeup into several bits so you can better understand why learning how to love yourself is important. These bits are: how to fall in love with yourself, how to treat yourself well, self-love, how to be confident, how to build confidence and self-esteem, self-love quotes, and how to be happy.

How to fall in love with yourself


How To Fall In Love With Yourself

To get others to love, respect, and accept you, you have to learn how to love yourself first. Numerous advantages come with knowing how to love yourself. They are:

  • You get to be happy and content with yourself. See details of this in my blog post titled 10 Ways To Find Happiness In Every Situation.
  • You get to discover your uniqueness.
  • You get to better understand your strengths and weaknesses.
  • Self-care will come naturally to you as you will see the need to take good care of yourself.
  • You get to understand yourself well enough to know how to use your strengths and capabilities when you are engaged in teamwork.
  • You become one who has good self-esteem and confidence.


Now that you know that learning how to love yourself is a win-win for you, I am sure you are itching to know how to go about it. Well, I will tell you. The following are ways for you to fall in love with yourself.


1.  Set Aside Some Quality Time For Yourself And Enjoy Your Own Company

Take out time to be alone and truly enjoy the peace of being by yourself. During the time that you are alone, think about the things you have done right in times past that you are happy about and allow yourself to bask in the joy every good feeling brings.

Also, you can use this time to think about how you can reciprocate the same things you did in times past to achieve greater or similar feats in the future. And don’t forget to pamper yourself, take yourself out on dates, buy good things for yourself, appreciate who you are, see life as beautiful, enjoy every single moment time can afford you to.


2.  Make A List Of Your Achievements

Make a list of things you have accomplished. It will help to remind you of your achievements, it will also remind you of your capabilities and strengths and it will give you a sense of pride, that you can fall back to when you start feeling down – knowing that you were able to achieve so much in the past can inspire you to undertake new feats, so you can have new victories to celebrate.


3.  See The Beauty In You

Self love

If you see the beauty in you, falling in love with yourself will come easily to you. The first step to doing this is to appreciate the vessel in which you exist- Learn how to love your body, see the beauty in it, appreciate every single frame of you through your mind’s eye, and accept yourself. Accept that there is no one else like you, accept that you are truly beautiful and deserve the very best of life.


4.  Change The Things, You Don’t Like About Yourself

If there are things you are not proud of about yourself, make efforts to change them. I used to be very fearful and assumed that somehow the worse things would happen to me or those I love. I didn’t like this part of me. In times when I was supposed to be happy, I used to feel worried and sad.

But When I discovered that this bad habit was eating me up and stealing my joy and peace away from me, I started to work on it by always telling myself everything is fine whenever the feeling of fear came and through much work on myself, I am a better and happier person today and I love myself more now.


5.  Adopt Positive Habits For Yourself

There are many positive habits for a better lifestyle and healthier living, you should try to adopt them. Every habit you admire in people, that you feel will add value to you, you should try to adopt for yourself while you drop the bad ones that are of no value to you. This will help you appreciate yourself more and falling in love with yourself will come easily to you.


How To Treat Yourself Well

Treating yourself well means you value yourself and know you are worthy of good things. Not everyone knows how to treat themselves well. Some people see themselves as unworthy of love and good things and people around them likewise start seeing them the same way. If you are one of such persons that feels they are no good, you can change this narrative by learning how to love yourself and treat yourself well.

Here are 5 tips that will help you treat yourself as the King or Queen that you are.


1.  Accept Yourself

The first step to knowing how to treat yourself well is to accept yourself. Accepting yourself means that you embrace your identity and you are not trying to be someone else. The good thing about accepting yourself is, it helps you to be truly content with yourself and to value who you are.


2.  Get All Forms Of Negativity Out Of Your Life

Make sure you keep away from people who always see negativity in you and never good, such people are toxic to you and will only make you keep feeling terrible about yourself.


3.  Learn To Say No When It Is Needed

You can not agree with everything everyone wants you to do for them, this will wear you out. You have to learn to have a mind of your own and say no when you feel there is a need for it. Notwithstanding what anyone else thinks always learn to put yourself first and treat yourself with love and consideration. Now, this is not to say you won’t care for others, you should but this should not be to your detriment.


4.  Pamper Yourself

Yes, you are special and you deserve all the good things life has to offer. Treat Yourself well by getting yourself good things and taking good care of yourself. Creating time for yourself to rest is also a sign that you are treating yourself well.


5.  Surround Yourself With People Who Genuinely Love You

The solution for negativity is positivity. After you have emptied your life of all negative vibes, it is now time to make sure you fill the void by surrounding yourself with people who love you and genuinely see good in you.


Self Love

Self-love simply means accepting who you are and appreciating that person. You cannot know how to love yourself if you don’t practice self-love. The following tips will help you fall in love with yourself.


1.  Love Your Body

It is important that you love your body and treat it well because it is the vessel that is containing you.


2.  Start Your Day Right

Always start your day by speaking good things about yourself and your life.


3.  Consume Only Healthy Food And Drinks

How to love your body

You should eat only food that will nourish your body and keep it functioning well, avoid eating junk. The same applies to drinks, you should only consume that which is good for your body and avoid whatever will be toxic to it.


4.  Surround Yourself With Love

Always surround yourself with people that see good in you and that belief in you.


5.  Keep Away From Toxic People

Keep away from people who see you as a no good. Such people are toxic to you.


6.  Embrace Your Uniqueness

Celebrate what makes you different from the crowd.


7.  Be Careful What You Think About

Do not allow bad thoughts to dwell in your mind, keep your mind stayed on good things only.


8.  Treat Others Well

You should always treat others as you want them to treat you. This means you should treat them with love and respect and never try to manipulate them.


9.  Forgive Your Wrongs

To learn how to love yourself, you have to know how to forgive your shortcomings and do not keep beating yourself up about them.


10.  Enjoy Your Life

Live your life the best way you can. Enjoy every moment of it while you can.


11.  Refuse To Live In The Past

Don’t let your past faults and guilt weigh you down. Move past it and live in the present.


How To Be Confident

Confidence is strong proof that you know your worth and value it. Except you know how to love yourself, you can’t qualify as a confident person. Here are three tips to help boost your confidence.


1.  Program Yourself To Win

Always see yourself as victorious and remind yourself that you are the best version of you every day


2.  Care For Yourself

Self-maintenance is very important if you want to go far in life. Know your limits and learn to stay within them in order not to stress yourself out. Also, you should take good care of your body; always eat a balanced diet, drink water, and exercise regularly.


3.  Help Others

You have to inculcate the habit of caring deeply for others too and not making life about yourself alone


Confidence And Self Esteem

Confident people usually have a healthy self-esteem. You can take a self-confidence test, to know your level of confidence and to see if there is any need to work on it. If you, however, feel your level of confidence is low, you can engage in confidence-building exercises like:

  • Saying positive things about yourself when you wake and before you sleep each day.
  • Setting aside at least 30minutes each day for yourself, to think about your achievements as a person.
  • Making a list of your achievements
  • And setting attainable goals for yourself each day.


The following self-confidence examples will inspire you and help you see reasons to be a confident person.

Remember the story of Nelson Mandela? The man who fought against apartheid in South Africa and believed against all odds that peace and equality will be gained by all South Africans. His desire came to pass because he maintained his confidence and believed continually in the cause he was fighting for.

Also, Abraham Lincoln who despite the opposition he faced in his days, maintained his confidence and enacted measures to abolish slavery. History is replete with many examples like this. This shows that confidence and self-esteem are very profitable for every individual.


How To Be Happy

You can only be happy when you learn how to love yourself because happiness comes with being content with yourself or with your situation. In the words of Albert Einstein where there is a will, there is away. This means that happiness can be achieved by everyone but you have to be first of all ready to know how to love yourself and see the boundless reasons life presents you each day, to be happy. The following tips will guide you on how to be happy.


1.  Enjoy Living Your Life

This means that you should be contented with yourself and love your life. It also means that you should always celebrate yourself and never try to be someone else.


2.  Spend Time Alone

Enjoy your space. Take time to be alone and truly enjoy your company.


3.  Take Care Of Yourself

Self-care is a good sign that you know how to love yourself, you should pamper yourself when you can and allow yourself to truly enjoy life and be happy.


4.  Be Healthy

How to love yourself first

When you learn how to love yourself, you take care of yourself and when you do this you stay healthy and happy. So you should learn to treat yourself well by eating healthy meals, resting well, exercising, and occasionally visiting your physician to ensure that you are in good health.


5.  Make plans for the future

To be happy, you have to learn to plan for the future and enjoy seeing those plans materialize into reality.


6.  Practice Forgiveness And Love Others

To be happy, you have to learn to forgive yourself and those who have hurt you. And love others as you love yourself.


Self Love Quotes

“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, cares enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.” – Jean Shinoda Bolen

“Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.”- Parker Palmer

“Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?” – Brigham Young

“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.” – Robert Morley

“Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions … Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.”- Tina

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.” – Brene Brown

“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.”- Shannon L. Alder

“Once you embrace your value, talents, and strengths, it neutralizes when others think less of you.” – Rob Liano

“You are enough just as you are.” – Meghan Markle

“If you don’t love yourself, nobody will. Not only that, but you also won’t be good at loving anyone else. Loving starts with the self.” – Wayne Dyer

“Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity.” – Katrina Mayer

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”- Lucille Ball

“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.”- Maya Angelou

“To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.”- Denis Waitley.

“Everyone of us needs to show how much we care for each other and, in the process, care for ourselves.”- Diana, Princess Of Wales

“Everyone of us needs to show how much we care for each other and, in the process, care for ourselves.” – Ellie Holcomb

“Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you! Shout aloud, ‘I am lucky to be what I am!…’”- Dr. Seuss

“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.” – Maxwell Maltz

“We just need to be kinder to ourselves. If we treated ourselves the way we treated our best friend, can you imagine how much better off we would be?” – Meghan Markle

“Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.” – M. Scott Peck

“A man cannot be comfortable without his approval.”- Mark Twain

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”- Harvey Fierstein

“Be healthy and take care of yourself, but be happy with the beautiful things that make you, you.” – Beyonce
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson


For you

Thanks for reading this article to the end. Now that you have realized the importance of learning how to love yourself. I hope that the knowledge you have acquired on self-love will guide you through life in your relations with yourself and others.


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