Kids are wonderful, but many times they like to seek our attention especially when we are too busy doing things they don’t understand. For instance, my little boy loves to always be around me. He is very clingy and wants me to be a part of everything he is doing and if I am too busy to attend to him, he gets fussy.
This can be quite stressful for me. As much as I love him, I don’t want him distracting me from my tasks for the day. I am sure a lot of mothers can relate to this. If you are in this situation, there are things you can do to calm your child and reassure her that you love her. One thing I know works like magic is to try to engage her in meaningful conversations.
Before your busy time, let your kid have a one-on-one conversation with you to build the bond and trust between you two. There are several engaging questions you can ask your kid, some of them are :
1. What makes you happy?
2. What have your friends been up to?
3. If you could do anything right now, what would you do?
4. What makes you feel loved?
5. How do you show people you care?
6. What does it feel like when I hug you?
7. What do you enjoy giving people?
8. Did you smile or laugh extra today?
9. How do you best like helping others?
10. Pretend you’re a chef and tell me about your restaurant. What foods do you serve?
11. What do you think you’re going to dream about tonight?
12. What makes you feel thankful?
13. Where would you like to travel? How would you get there?
14. What makes you feel energized?
15. What are some of the best things about nature?
16. What’s a memory that makes you happy?
17. What bugs you?
18. Describe a great day. What are you doing that makes it special?
19. Do you think it’d be fun to learn another language?
20. What are the three things you want to do this summer?
21. If you could make up a new holiday, what would it be?
22. What makes someone smart?
23. What makes your friends so awesome?
24. What makes you so awesome?
25. Do you have any inventions in your brain?
26. Do you think it’d be fun to learn another language?
27. Do you like it when other people share with you? Why?
28. If you were a teacher and could teach your students anything at all, what would you teach them?
29. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever eaten?
30. Who is your favorite storybook character?
31. What one thing do you do now that you need an adult for but would like to try to do all by yourself?
32. If a friend asks you to keep a secret that you don’t feel comfortable keeping, what would you do?
33. If you had to give everyone in the family new names, what would they be?
34. What would you do if you made the rules at home?
35. Tell me something about you that you think I might not know.
36. What is the funniest thing that ever happened to you?
37. What do you think your life will be like in the future?
38. What is the most wonderful thing that ever happened to you?
39. Who is your best friend and why?
40. If you could choose a new name for yourself, what would it be, and why?
41. What’s the coolest thing you saw someone do today?
42. How would you change the world if you could?
43. What do you know how to do that you can teach to others?
44. Did you catch anyone doing something funny?
45. Did anyone do anything super nice for you?
46. What was the nicest thing you did for someone else?
47. Who made you smile today?
48. What new fact did you learn today?
49. Who brought the best food in their lunch today? What was it?
50. If one of your classmates could be the teacher for the day who would you want it to be? Why?
51. Did anyone push your buttons today?
52. Who do you want to make friends with but haven’t yet? Why not?
53. Tell me something you learned about a friend today.
54. What was your favorite subject to study today? Why?
55. What is one thing you did today that was helpful?
56. What rule was the hardest to follow today?
57. Which person in your class is your exact opposite?
58. Which area of your school is the most fun?
59. Which playground skill do you plan to master this year?
60. Do you believe in ghosts?
61. What’s the ugliest name you’ve ever heard?
62. How old do you think I am?
63. Where in the universe do you want to go for a visit?
64. Who is your worst enemy and why?
65. What do want to be when you grow up?
66. If you were to give me a nickname, what would it be?
67. What’s your dream vacation?
68. What makes a good friend?
69. Describe yourself in one word.
70. What’s your favorite book?
71. What’s your favorite meal?
72. What’s your favorite dessert?
73. If you had to give all of your toys away, who would you give them to?
74. What is your favorite word?
75. What’s the funniest thing you can think of?
76. What do you like best about your sister? Brother?
77. What two things do you like about YOU best?
78. What do you think you need to work on?
79. What do you like most about school?
80. What do you like least about school?
81. What’s the most important part of being a happy family?
82. What goal do you have for this year?
83. What’s your idea of a perfect day?
84. Would you rather take a train ride or airplane ride?
85. Would you rather be inside all day or outside all day?
86. Would you rather live in the city or a farm?
87. Which country in the world, do you love the most? And why?
88. Who inspires you the most?
89. Where is your dream holiday destination?
90. What is your best color?
If your child isn’t initially excited about answering your questions, don’t worry and don’t rush her to answer or move on to another question too quickly. Let your child take her time, it shows that you’re genuinely interested in what she has to say, and not just robotically asking questions.
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Here are more interesting questions to ask your kid!
Questions to ask your child about school
While a child’s academic achievement is important for parents, children may not understand its significance at a young age. By asking your little ones these questions, you can bond with them over the struggles and achievements they may have experienced in school.
Know more about your kid’s life at school with these 25 questions:
- How was your day at school?
- How did you do on the test you had today?
- What did you study today?
- Did you enjoy any specific subject today?
- What did you do in P.E class?
- Who did you play with at recess?
- Did you need help at school today?
- Do you feel comfortable asking your teacher for help if needed?
- Who did you get partnered up with for your lab class today?
- Did you make any new friends at school today?
- What did you read in class?
- Did any of your classmates do anything funny?
- Do you think math is too hard for you?
- What was the best part of your day at school?
- What was the worst part of your day at school?
- Who did you sit with to have lunch?
- Do you notice a difference between this year and your previous year?
- Show me something you learned today.
- Did you end up doing something funny at school?
- Was your best friend in class today?
- Did you eat your whole lunch?
- Did you like what you had for lunch today?
- Do you feel like you’ve been given too much homework at times?
- What subject do you think you need to work more on?
- Did you have trouble focusing in class today?
Thinking Questions for kids
Thinking about different things will broaden the perspective of young children and train their minds. They can gain clarity, and better understand when thinking about a particular topic. It will also help you comprehend how their thought process seems to work.
Get their thinking hats on with these interesting questions:
- What are five words that describe you best?
- What is something you enjoy every time, no matter how many times you do it?
- What is something that makes you feel happy?
- What makes you feel sad?
- What is something you think you’re very good at?
- What are two things you’re very proud of?
- What is the best thing that has happened to you?
- What is the worst thing that has happened to you?
- What did you learn that you like?
- What do you think is most useful in your adult life out of all things you’re studying right now?
- What would you tell yourself if you could travel two years back in time?
- What are your thoughts on space?
- What is something you’re grateful for?
- Which of your friends do you like most? Why?
- What is one thing you think you could be famous for?
- How do you think you can help someone?
- What is the motive behind ‘giving’?
- If you could make one rule that everybody in the world had to follow, what would it be?
- What is one thing you want to improve about yourself?
- Who do you look up to from your family?
- What made you smile today?
- What makes you feel creative?
- Have you ever felt unsafe?
- Were you brave today in any way? How?
- What are you looking forward to in the next week?
Funny Questions to ask a Kid
Having fun with your kid feels like the best thing in the world, doesn’t it? As a loving parent, you must ensure your kid enjoys your company. It encourages your kid to share and maintain a good bond with you.
Bring out a giggle, ask them any of these 25 questions:
- If your stuffed animals could talk, what do you think would they say?
- Are you a cat person or a dog person?
- What is the funniest joke you’ve ever heard?
- What would you name your dinosaur if you had one?
- Can you smell me from there?
- If you had a restaurant, what would you serve?
- If you were a hot dog and didn’t have anything else to eat, would you eat yourself?
- Do you have funny dreams?
- If you could only cry or only laugh for a whole lifetime, which one would you pick?
- What do you think life would be like if no one had a phone?
- What is your favorite dessert?
- What is the worst food you’ve ever tried? Why was it so bad?
- What would you pick if you could choose anything to be a pizza topping?
- What would you like to do all day if there was no concept of time?
- What would your pet say to you if it could speak?
- What do you think dragons would sound like?
- If you were a tiny mouse, what would our house look like to you?
- What’s your favorite word?
- If your favorite word had a smell, what would it smell like?
- Would you rather be invisible or be able to read people’s minds?
- If you were a pirate, what treasure would you like to find?
- If you had a unicorn, what would you name it?
- What is your favorite cartoon?
- Do you like space better or the ocean?
- What would your clothing line look like if you were a fashion designer?
Social Questions for Kids
As a parent, we understand that you are concerned about the kind of company your child keeps. It’s important to know who your child hangs out with and the type of friend circle they are a part of. A child’s social circle is of essence to their growth.
- Who do you spend the most time with at school?
- Who is your best friend?
- Who do you enjoy hanging out with most?
- Who do you like and why?
- What did you like most about today?
- Do you like the friends you hang out with?
- Do you feel comfortable around your friends?
- Is there anyone that makes you feel uncomfortable?
- Do you find it tough to speak up in front of your friends?
- Do you feel confident in front of everyone?
- Are you okay with speaking on stage?
- Do you feel overwhelmed after interacting with your friends?
- Who is most inspiring to you?
- Who do you look up to most?
- Are you afraid of anyone?
- Who among your friends are you most comfortable around?
- Who would you pick if you could go on a trip with only three of your friends?
- Who is your favorite movie character?
- What is your favorite thing to talk about?
- Do you feel uncomfortable talking about anything in particular?
- What’s your favorite hobby?
- Do you like singing with your friends?
- Do you think you work well in group projects?
- Name two people you admire most in your life?
- Who makes you laugh the most?
Questions to ask your Toddler
Conversations with your toddler will help them learn empathy, better conversation skills, and you can, in turn, gain an understanding of their perspective. It will also help build curiosity in their minds, helping them understand themselves better.
Ask them these 25 questions:
- What is something you don’t like to do?
- What are you proud of?
- Do you think you’re kind?
- What do you do to show other people you love them?
- What do you want to be when you grow up?
- Do you have a favorite book? Why is it your favorite?
- What is the funniest sound you can make?
- What makes you different from other kids your age?
- In what ways do you think you’re similar to your Mommy/ Daddy?
- What makes you feel happy?
- What makes you feel sad?
- Is there anything you want to change about yourself?
- Is there anything you’re looking forward to currently?
- What is your pet’s name?
- How old were you when you first got your pet?
- How tall do you think your dad is?
- Does doing anything, in particular, make you feel brave?
- Do you like to go to the park with us?
- What is your favorite part of the outing we had last week?
- Where do you think bubbles go?
- Do you like cake more or cookies?
- If you could fly, where would you go right now?
- If you could bring one movie/ cartoon character to life, which one would you pick?
- What do grapes smell like to you?
- What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
Yes or No Questions for Kids
Asking kids easy questions that they can answer with a yes or a no is an excellent way of communicating with them. It is one of the simplest ways to know a little more about them and give them a chance to talk to you.
Asking yes or no questions can be viewed as the first step of communication before they open up a little more to you and talk about their life in detail.
Take the first step towards bonding with your kid by asking them these:
- If you could, would you invite a magician to dinner?
- Can you stay up for a whole night?
- Did you eat all your meals until your stomach was full today?
- Did you take a bath today?
- Would you wear a costume?
- Do you want to be Santa’s elf for Christmas this year?
- Do you want to go to the park today?
- Would you like to spend an entire day at Disney World by yourself?
- Would you want to go camping with Mom and Dad?
- Do you want to share the room with your siblings?
- Are you afraid of spiders?
- According to you, are airplanes slow?
- Is brown a color?
- Is purple your favorite color?
- Are you scared of clowns?
- Is using a pencil easier than using a pen?
- Do you enjoy coloring?
- Do you like drawing?
- Can you get dressed for school by yourself?
- Is a month longer than a day?
- Have you been swimming?
- Have you ever caught a fish by yourself?
- Have you ever seen a giraffe?
- Do you like flying a kite?
- Does your dress/ outfit have pockets?
Questions to ask Pre-Teens and Teens
Teenagers are more brutal to handle, and I think we can all admit that. It gets difficult to talk to your kid when they’re in this phase of growth. They have their issues to deal with along with other hormonal changes, and they often feel like they’re not understood.
It is essential to reach out and talk to them during this time to assert they can speak to you and that you understand them.
Let them know you’re there for them by asking them these questions:
- Do you think I’m a cool parent?
- What are the different social groups at your school? Are you a part of any of them?
- Who did you sit with for lunch today?
- Do you have a celebrity crush? Who is it?
- What is the one physical feature you love most?
- Have you been struggling with anything lately?
- Which series are you binge-watching now?
- What is the coolest app that I don’t have on my phone yet?
- Would you like to recommend any shows for me to watch?
- What do you think about us going to get a haircut together tomorrow?
- What do you think about us having a spa day this week?
- Do you want to go to any concerts?
- Who is your favorite singer?
- Do you like any bands?
- Did you read anything you enjoyed this year?
- Which is your favorite holiday?
- Is there a holiday that you dislike? Why?
- How would you describe your personality?
- Is bullying something you have had to face at school at any point in time?
- Are drugs and alcohol a big problem at your school?
- What is one moment of your life so far that you will cherish forever?
- Do you have trouble coping with anything at all?
- Do you find yourself beautiful/ handsome? Because I do!
- Is there a teacher at school that you dislike?
- Do you believe we treat you and your siblings fairly?
Would You Rather Questions
Would you rather questions are fun to ask and even to answer. Not to mention the added advantage of getting to know your kid better while encouraging them to be creative and imaginative at the same time.
Here’s a list of would you rather questions to ask your child instead of asking them a question they wouldn’t enjoy answering:
- Would you rather be a fish or a bird?
- Would you rather stay up for one whole night of sleep for an entire day?
- Would you rather eat spaghetti or eat fries?
- Would you rather go on a trip without your phone or spend a day at home with no contact with anyone at all?
- Would you rather lose your soft toys or your friends?
- Would you rather give up on your favorite cereal or your favorite chocolate?
- Would you rather fly or be invisible?
- Would you rather understand all languages or be able to speak all languages?
- Would you rather be able to jump on clouds or skate on a rainbow?
- Would you rather unicorns be real or dragons?
- Would you rather walk on all fours at all times or only be able to walk sideways?
- Would you rather be able to do magic or be a superhero?
- Would you rather be a part of your favorite show or your favorite movie?
- Would you rather be super flexible or super fast?
- Would you rather be able to walk on fire or walk on water?
- Would you rather take a look into your future or go back to the past?
- Would you rather be a goat or a dog for one day?
- Would you rather be a house cat or a wild one?
- Would you rather have an elephant for your teacher or a giraffe?
- Would you rather be sick for a week or ill for a little, every day in a month?
- Would you rather have 7 fingers on each of your hands or each of your feet?
- Would you rather drink only water or drink anything but water for the rest of your life?
- Would you rather understand or be understood?
- Would you rather be kind or be smart?
- Would you rather visit space or explore the ocean?
Questions to Ask Kids to Get to Know Them
We’re here to help you know and understand your kid easily. Moreover, we know it can be tough to come up with topics you can converse about.
So, here are a few questions you can ask your kid to get to know them better:
- Do you daydream? If yes, about what?
- What sounds do you like?
- Do you like being hugged?
- Do you think it is okay for people to talk to you rudely?
- What is one activity you enjoy doing by yourself?
- What makes you angry?
- What is something you can not go without?
- What is your favorite hobby?
- Do you like helping your parents out with chores?
- Tell me something about yourself that you don’t think I know.
- How would you describe yourself in three words?
- What is your favorite thing about yourself?
- What makes you feel proud of yourself?
- What is something you dislike?
- Do you like the idea of having a treehouse?
- Do you enjoy spending time with us/ me?
- What are you looking forward to this summer?
- Do you like Halloween?
- Would you want to write a book about anything? If yes, what would it be about?
- What are the names of your soft toys?
- Do you like your school friends?
- Which is your favorite toy among the ones you have?
- What are you grateful for?
- Do you like helping others?
- Do you like sharing your things?
Open-ended Questions For Kids
Open-ended questions are ideal for developing conversational skills. These questions give children the opportunity to be open and subjective about their answers, building their curiosity around specific topics.
Ask your child these open-ended questions:
- Tell me how that works?
- What would you do if…
- Have you ever wondered…
- What do you think could happen next?
- What do you think about it…
- What do you see this as?
- Tell me why..
- How do you see it?
- What do you understand by..
- Do you have any idea about…
- Which of these is your favorite?
- Help me understand this better…
- Help me fix this..
- Is there any other way to…
- Why is this your favorite thing?
- Do you have any other solutions for…
- What makes you say….
- Tell me about a time when you..
- What do you think goes here..
- What is the best part about…
- What is your plan for..
- What do you think you can do for…
- What is your plan for..
- Tell me about a time when someone was kind to you?
- What do you think makes something unacceptable?
Science Questions for Kids
Make science fun and easy for your kids by asking them intriguing questions. Science will help you introduce your little one to the world beyond them.
25 questions about science that you can ask your kids are:
- All animals need food, water, and _______ to survive.
- Name one animal that lays eggs.
- What is the process of plants taking in sunlight to prepare food called?
- What is the powerhouse of the cell?
- How many bones does the human body have?
- Which is earth’s only natural satellite?
- Name a plant that can survive in the desert.
- Where do camels store water?
- A tree’s branch is made of smaller branches covered in?
- Which part of the body helps you move?
- What star can provide us with light?
- Legs have feet and arms have _______
- Which organ helps the other organs function?
- What is the young one of a horse called?
- What is a female deer called?
- Who invented gravity?
- Who invented the first telephone?
- Dark clouds give out thunder and?
- Your hands have four fingers and?
- What do birds use to fly in the sky?
- Which is the largest animal on earth?
- Which is the fastest animal on land?
- What is the boiling point of water?
- Which organ helps us pump blood through the entire body?
- What does boiling water turn into?
Religion-related Questions for Kids
Religion has a significant impact on our lives. Many times, children are eager to learn about religion and spirituality. Kids need to know about religion and religious differences as it shapes their social interactions and even the way they conduct themselves around others.
Help them build their curiosity and understand the concept of religion better by asking them these 25 questions:
- What is religion according to you?
- What do you know about the religion we follow?
- What do you know about atheism?
- Which religions have you heard of?
- How many religions do you think are there among people of the world?
- What do you know about ‘reincarnation’?
- Which religion have you most heard of?
- Do you know what secularism is?
- What importance do you think religion plays in a person’s life?
- Who is God, according to you?
- What religious scriptures have you heard of?
- Have you heard about the ‘afterlife’?
- How old were you when you first learned what religion your family (i.e., us) follows?
- Which religion believes in Jesus Christ?
- Which religion did the festival of ‘Christmas’ originate from?
- People of which religion celebrate the festival of ‘Diwali’?
- People of which religion celebrate the festival of ‘Eid’?
- Which religion believes in reincarnation?
- Which is one religion that believes in life after death?
- Which religion believes that this life is a test?
- What is the difference between faith and religion, according to you?
- What is the relationship between religion and faith?
- What is spirituality?
- Do you like going to the temple/church/ mosque with us?
- What do you think of when you hear someone talking about heaven?
Frequently Asked Questions:
Here are some frequently asked questions parents usually have related to their children:
How can I get my child to talk?
Children can vary in the time they learn to talk. For many children, open communication may not come naturally. In cases like these, a little help from a parent and/or a teacher can go a long way in boosting the child’s confidence and helping them speak up.
Getting your child to talk may not be an easy thing to do, but here are three ways to get your child to talk to you a little more:
- Focus on communication
Just because they don’t talk to you often doesn’t mean you shouldn’t either. Talk to them about random topics, anything you know they like, or anything generic. Sing songs to them, communicate through the help of gestures, make sure they know you’re making an effort to talk to them.
- Read to your child.
Reading to your child at the end of the day is a way of bonding and letting them know you’re available to spend time with them. Reading will help you gauge an understanding of their likes and dislikes, which can later be a topic of conversation.
For very young children, pictures are fascinating. Read them books that provide more visual cues; this will immensely help communicate with your little one.
- Use everyday situations
Talk to them about anything and everything that happens throughout the day. Every chance you get, encourage your child to speak. Start with topics you know they will enjoy talking about; this will help build conversational skills.
What are some random questions to ask kids?
Some random questions you can ask your kids are:
- What sounds do trees make?
- What does a horse sound like?
- What is your favorite snack?
- Do you like vegetables?
- What is your favorite drink?
- What is your favorite thing to do when it snows?
- Do you like wearing pants or shorts?
- Do you like the color pink or yellow?
- Which is your favorite flower?
- Do you like playing video games?
- Do you have a favorite cousin?
- What do you think the world would be like if children were in charge of their parents?
- What would you buy if you had all the money in the world?
- If you could eat one thing every day for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- Who would you support in a sword fight- Robin Hood or Peter Pan?
What topics to talk about with kids?
As a caring parent, it is your responsibility to talk with your child. Teaching your child the importance of communication is essential to their growth.
Here are some topics you can talk about with your child:
- School and Academics
- Their friends and who they hang out with
- Their mental health
- The importance of communication
- Boundaries (Physical and emotional both)
- Their interests and dislikes
- Their behaviors
- Anything that concerns you about them
- Their self-esteem
- Topics to boost their confidence
- Giving and receiving affection
- Family (core values and importance)
- Topics to help build gratitude
- Topics to help with building imagination
- Importance of being kind and understanding
Why ask open-ended questions?
You cannot answer open-ended questions with just a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no.’ The answers to these questions are entirely subjective, meaning they differ from person to person according to their perspective and level of understanding on a particular topic.
There are many reasons why one must ask their child open-ended questions. Some of these are:
- To develop their language and communication skills
- To help with ethical thinking
- To provide them the freedom to express their thoughts and ideas
- To be creative
- To give them more information and details
Why ask closed-ended questions?
Closed-ended questions are not subjective. They’re simply answered and do not require much effort. Your child will have clarity and not confusion while answering close-ended questions. While these may seem pointless, they do comprise a few advantages, which are:
- Serve as a warm-up for open-ended questions
- Create confidence in the child
- Build curiosity and set the base for complex thought processes
These are a few questions that will help you start conversations and communicate better with your child. Don’t worry if your child doesn’t seem very interested in answering your questions initially. Don’t rush your child into talking with you. Give them the space to think and put forth their views even while asking these questions.
However, if your child seems distant despite continued effort from your end for conversing with them, it might be best to consult a professional. That being said, take a genuine interest in what your child has to say, and we’re sure you’ll get them talking about anything and everything to you in no time.