There are several things to consider when it comes to planning first dates that are supposed to lead to subsequent dates. First off, you should have a good date idea you want to explore. The reason for this is that it is one of the factors having a successful date is dependent on.
The next thing you should consider is what to say on a first date. There are several questions to ask on a first date that can make it interesting. These questions can be referred to as first date ice breakers or first date conversation topics because they are the questions that will help you get to know your date partner better.
These questions differ and should be used based on the kind of discussion you feel you want to have with your date partner and what you plan to achieve with such conversations. You should for instance ask funny first date questions if you want to make your partner laugh and deep first date questions if you want to have a very meaningful conversation that can reveal deep details about your partner to you.
And if you feel like you are ready to start a relationship, there are questions to ask when starting a relationship especially a serious one that can lead to marriage. For a perfect guide on what kind of questions you should ask before marriage read my blog post titled 20 Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Decide To Marry Him Or Her.
You should also know that what to talk about on a first date with someone you already know should be different from what to talk about on a first date with a girl or guy you just met. Whatever the case, what to talk about on a first date will no longer be a problem to you if you stay with me and patiently examine the questions I will reveal to you.
What To Talk About On A First Date With A Girl?
When planning a date with a girl, you need to be conscious of the fact that ladies are emotional beings. For the date to be worth it, you should know how to get her to like you, and you can achieve this by doing the following:
1. Compliment Her
Every girl loves to be acknowledged. One way to get her full attention is by complimenting her. You can for instance say works like:
- I love your dress, it’s so beautiful.
- Your hairdo suits you perfectly.
- Your accessories look awesome on you.
Your compliments help her know that you notice her and consider her to be special.
2. Ask Her How Her Day Has Been
In other to get a lady’s attention you need to introduce a topic that shows you’re caring. You can begin by asking how her day has been? She will give you an answer and “boom” you’ve her attention.
3. Talk About An Activity In Your Life That Will Include Her
According to Gretchen Kubacky, Psy D”, a psychologist based in Los Angeles; “the more a guy can build a picture of his life to include a woman, the more likely she is to be interested in him”. You can create a mental picture of your activities for the day and share it with her. This way she will know you consider her to be special. The following example will help you better understand this.
“on Saturdays, I love to grab some coffee and toast and then go for a walk in the park after which I’ll go to a piano class. Do you love playing Piano? I would love to teach you”.
With this conversation, she will know you consider her to be special and you’ll be able to know if she shares the same interest as you.
4. Develop Your Knowledge Of Her
If you got to know her through someone or an event, you can talk about her friendship with that person and if you met her at an event, explain your interest in that kind of event and ask questions related to it.
5. Ask Career Questions
Often, guys make a mistake by asking a lady what she does for a living. It may sound right, but you won’t get enough information about her by asking this question. According to Dr. Jane Greer, a first date is all about showing interest so instead of asking a lady what she does for a living ask questions like – “what motivated your decision to follow your career line? With this question, you’ll be able to get to know more about her personality and what motivates her.
6. Pay Close Attention To Know If She’s Interested In You
Never go on a date with a girl without paying attention to know if she cares about you. You can know if a girl likes you or if she’s self-centered by the questions she asks. I remember the story of the first date of my friend Chris. He went out with this girl he met on social media. On his return, I asked him how his date went and this was his reply:
“She’s nice, smart, and beautiful but blames everyone for every single problem in her life excluding herself. This was his conclusion because when he asked her about her former job, she blamed her former boss for everything. He concluded by saying “she will blame me too someday for issues in her life if we go further”.
7. Ask What Her Idea Of A Good Life Is
Everyone has plans for their lives. Ask her about her concept of a good life and see if you can fit in also, try to know if she’s desperate for marriage, wants to pursue her ambition, or just wants to explore. Her answers will help you decide if you want to go on another date with her and get to know her better or if you should just end things with her.
8. Show That You’re Interested
Show a level of curiosity and make her tell you more about herself. Ask questions about her life while growing up or about her daily routine and things she will love to accomplish. By doing this, she will see you as an interesting person who wants to know her and with this, you’ll be able to know if you share a common interest or experience. Also, it will help you decide if you’ll like to see her again.
9. Create A Mutual End Point
The date isn’t for a whole day. You’ll leave at some point. Try to make this process of saying bye a nice one. You can for example say – “it was a great pleasure meeting you but I have another engagement and need to run along now” and if you enjoyed your date, you can say – “I enjoyed my time with you, but I’m afraid I need to go now. Can I call you? I’ll miss you for the rest of the day”. The idea is for you to end your date respectfully.
What To Talk About On A First Date With Someone You Already Know
As easy as it may sound, going out with someone you already know can sometimes be challenging because the two of you already know much about each other so it is easy for you to start to feel there is little or nothing to talk about.
If you feel like this is your situation, my candid advice is for you to be honest with your date and let things flow from there since there’s already a foundation for friendship. You can also do the following:
1. Talk About What You Already Know
If you’ve known this person or you’ve been friends for a while, you can say words like – “can’t believe we’re here after all this time” and If this person resides in your neighborhood you can discuss things about your neighborhood or if you are both colleagues you can start by saying “I’m glad that we finally have this opportunity to hang out together considering our busy work schedules.
Whatever the case, know that your already existing knowledge of that person is your greatest advantage for communication.
2. Discuss Your Passions
A shared passion can always stir up the attraction between two people and a good way to discover this is by asking questions bordering on what your date does and what his/her life goals are. This will enable you to get into his or her world.
3. Show Concern About Areas Of Importance
You don’t have to get deep into the hurt and pain of the past. You just need to show concern for things that are important such as family, friends, job, or skills.
4. Ask About His Or Her Ambition
You need to know your date’s drive in life if you want your friendship to go to the next level. Asking about his or her ambition will be a good way to know if you are compatible or not.
5. Reveal Something About Yourself That Your Date Doesn’t Know
Reveal a sensitive and romantic side of you that your date didn’t know before.
6. Ask Some Personal Questions
The essence of this is for your date to reveal deep things about himself or herself to you. While doing this, don’t just jump into intimacy questions; take it one step at a time. The more your date reveals, the more you go deeper. For a perfect guide on some personal questions you can ask, read my blog post titled 40 Deep Questions To Ask The Guy You Like.
7. Ask Your Date Of His/Her Opinion Of You Two Getting Closer
Don’t assume your date wants a “next level” with you. You need to ask him or her to know. The answer you get will help you determine if you should go deeper with him/her or not.
First Date Ice Breaker
On a first date, especially with someone you don’t know, you need to ask some questions that will ease the tension and anxiety. The following are first-date conversation topics you can try.
1. Ask About Childhood
Everyone has a unique childhood experience that they will love to share. When you ask about your date’s childhood experience, you help to ease the anxiety and make the process of getting to know each other an easier one.
2. Ask About Likes And Dis-Likes
Everyone has likes and dislikes. Talking about them is a good way to start up a good conversation.
3. Ask An Imaginary Question
This question will get you to make your date talk especially if he/she is the quiet type.
4. Ask What Kind Of Animals Your Date Likes As A Pet
If you notice your date likes pets, this is one way to kickstart an interesting discussion. You can also ask follow-up questions like his/her favorite pet names and others.
5. Ask About Your Date’s Daily Activities
You can learn a lot about a person by knowing about their daily activities. This way, you will get to know if you can fit into their life or not.
6. Inquire About Their Role Models
Everyone has someone they look up to. The answer to this question can give you an idea of your date’s character and personality.
7. Comment On Your Date’s Appearance
Compliment your date on his or her appearance. This is a smart way to get his/her attention and create the right atmosphere you need to start an enjoyable conversation.
Questions To Ask When Starting A Relationship
- When starting a serious relationship, the following are the basic questions you need to ask.
- What makes you happy the most?
- What makes you angry?
- When angry, what calms you down?
- What’s one lesson you have learned in your past.
- What’s your regret in life?
- What’s your greatest achievement?
- What are your long-term goals?
- What are your short-term goals?
- What are your areas of strength and weakness?
Funny First Date Questions
Oftentimes people ask hilarious questions on a first date as a result of either being nervous, shy, getting to know the other person or just trying to have a good time.
Some of these questions are:
- What’s one food you cannot live without?
- Have you ever been caught laughing aloud at your boss?
- Have you ever jumped to a conclusion about someone without meeting that person before?
- Do you believe in spiritual connections?
- Would you give up your favorite thing for a friend?
- What’s the weirdest thing you’re ever done?
- If you could trade places with anyone who would it be?
- What are the most hilarious clothes your parents bought for you while growing up?
- What’s your funniest moment in life?
- Have you ever been silly in a formal gathering before? How does it feel?
- Have you ever responded awkwardly to your boss unconsciously?
- Have you ever felt like just going crazy while with your boss?
- Do you have a mum like mine?
- Do you ever think of making love?
- Who is your secret crush?
- Have you ever wished for what you can never have?
- What’s your funniest moment?
- What’s the craziest hairdo you’ll ever wear?
- What’s your worst job?
- At what age did you lose your virginity?
- Do you like everything you wear?
- Who do you wish to be?
- Do you wish others’ dates never end well?
Make your first date set the pace for a lovely and interesting relationship by making sure you ask the right questions on your first date and don’t forget to have fun while you do this.